Wow! It has been 498 days since my last post, and to say things have changed feels like a bit of an understatement. Let’s see. 498 days ago I was in my second year of graduate school, considering rekindling things with an old flame, and living and working in a place I love and surrounded by those who love me. Life was stressful and hectic for sure, but nothing compares to the hurdles we are currently facing. A quick catch up from me goes like this: I graduated, traveled to Europe, moved to Boston, and now work as a mental health clinician at a children’s hospital. The transition has been both rewarding and challenging, but I’ll share more about that at another time because there are more pressing matters at hand. We are currently living in the midst of overwhelming chaos and uncertainty. The pandemic and all that is unknown has resulted in mass hysteria and a sense of heaviness and hopelessness that, on some days, feels unbearable. Day in and day out, I try to remind myself of the good, the light, the bright, the joy, the laughter, the peace, the fun, the hope, and the love. I will admit, that sometimes it’s easier and sometimes it’s nearly impossible. And if I’m feeling the push and pull, confusion, hopelessness, and overall drain of each moment of the day, I can only imagine what you are feeling. That’s why I think that now is as good of a time as any for Kermit Says… to return. It’s been too long and there are far too many things going on in the world, in your own backyard, and within you that deserve support, encouragement, healing, and so much love. I hope you’ll join me again. Continue reading
This weekend was filled with triggering news that I’m sure brought up anxiety and all sorts of emotions. And as I shared on the Kermit Says… Facebook and Instagram pages, there is no right or wrong way to react. We are all fully-formed humans with valid feelings and experiences that have shaped our very being. With every news report and social media post that sparked an array of feelings, I hope you took time to both acknowledge them and feel them deeply and to care for yourself in whatever way was most effective and beneficial for you to mend and heal. Now, are you ready to press on and power up because there is work to do? You, my friend, have a voice that is valuable and worthy. We need you. You need you. It’s time to change the game. Continue reading
I’m going to keep today’s post short and simple because the solution to what happened this weekend (and every day before and after) is just that: short and simple. It’s hard to leave a weekend like this feeling anything but anger and sadness. Surprised? Not so much. Events like what occurred in Charlottesville, Virginia happen on a daily basis, they’re just oftentimes not as explicit, violent, or demonstrated on such a mass scale. The thing about racism, white supremacy, xenophobia, religious intolerance, homophobia, and sexism–more specifically–is that they are insidious and they don’t have to be overt with the stereotypical symbols of hate, like burning crosses, angry mobs, and lynch ropes, to be painful and harmful. Acknowledge that. Acknowledge your own bias and the beliefs you have that cause you to judge and mistreat people who are different from you. Acknowledge your own privilege. Have conversations. Do the work and recognize that that work won’t be easy. Do it anyway because at the end of the day our job on this earth is to make life easier, happier, and better for everyone, not just some. The only way things are going to change is if you do something to change it. 200 + years is a long time to hate others. It’s also a long time to live in fear. Isn’t it time we actually do something about this? Love on someone today. Maybe it starts with love. Maybe that’s the first step in the right direction. Maybe we could at least try.
Happy Friday, friends! I don’t know about you, but I’m absolutely jumping for joy since we’ve finally made it to the end of another pretty long week. The week before Thanksgiving break and after elections has, at times, felt pretty unbearable, and yet here we are. Cheers to the weekend and another Friday Finding countdown!
Who is Yani? is not only the title of her mixtape, it’s also the question on everyone’s lips. Who is this poet, rapper, lyricist, theologian, and leader spreading words of positivity, love, and peace from the Bay of California to the streets of India? I’m sure that sounds like a tall order for one person, and it is, but Iyana Davis isn’t just a person. She is magic. William Shakespeare said “She be small, but she is fierce,” and fierce Davis is! At just 5 feet (though I’m sure her hair gives her a few more inches), beautiful hazel eyes, and a commitment to changing the world, Davis is absolutely unstoppable. So, who is Yani? You’re about to find out!
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, I’m sure you’ve stumbled upon radio stations playing 24-hours of Christmas tunes (NSYNCs Christmas album, anyone?), seen a myriad of commercials informing your Christmas wish lists (gotta love those Apple and Coca-Cola commercials), and wasted countless hours watching Christmas-themed films (It’s a Wonderful Life and Elf are among my favorites)! It’s so easy to get brain washed around the holidays, so easy to forget the true reason for the season.
Whatever holiday you celebrate, don’t get caught up in the presents, but be present…be in the moment.
Whatever holiday you celebrate, don’t get caught up in the gifts, but be a gift to someone else…give love.
Whatever holiday you celebrate, don’t get caught up in the lights, but be the light in someone else’s life.
Whatever holiday you celebrate, don’t get caught up in the man, but in the Man…celebrate God’s promises.
And whatever holiday you celebrate, don’t get caught up in what society sells you, but listen to your heart for Christmas lives inside of you.
So, instead of letting (only) the presents under the tree bring you happiness, focus on giving and receiving what money can’t buy: peace, love, and joy!
I love the holiday season! It’s a time when folks can go home, reconnect with family and friends, and reflect on both the challenges and blessings of the season.
But with so much happening in the world, it’s also pretty easy to see how and why the holidays can be a time filled with great sadness and pain. It can be a time when people don’t feel cared for or loved. A time when people feel lonely, poor, discouraged, inadequate, and depressed. We get so bogged down by the negatives and the crazy cards that life can often present that we lose sight of what really matters, we lose hope and faith in ourselves and the world around us. We forget about our own well-being and the well-being of others. Don’t.
You may not feel loved, but you are because I love you.
You may not feel wealthy, but you are wealthy with the riches money can’t buy.
You may feel lonely, but you’re not for He is always with you.
You may feel inadequate, but you were made in His image and are destined for greatness.
Don’t give up or let this holiday season get you down– let it build you up instead.
And if you ever feel like you’re by yourself and need someone to talk to, someone to bring you good tidings or give you peace, comfort, and love, I’m here for you.